Etiquette for Montreal Wedding Invitations
Posted on 16 October 2016
These days there are many styles of wedding invitations, but the one thing to remember is that the invitation is more than just a card that tells your guests the date and location of your wedding, it really reflects the style and formality of the wedding that you are having, for example if you are sending out a hand-written or e-invitation, then this would tell me that is is a casual wedding (even though some of my couples these days choose this for speed and ease), an engraved invitation with heavy paper would indicate a more ‘formal’ wedding!
Types of Printing
There are many different types of printing and again what you choose will depend upon the style of wedding you are having:
- Engraving, is the most formal and the most expensive and produces a raised print on the front and a depression on the back.
- Thermography, is much less expensive and this also produces a raised print on the front, however no depression on the back!
- Lithography, this is more typical these days and produces a flat print and is less expensive than Thermography.
- Laser, again more commonly used and the least expensive which can be produced by a printer or event the Bride & Groom….
- Handwritten, if deciding on handwritten invitations, then I would suggest (unless your handwriting is beautiful) hiring a calligrapher for these invitations and maybe only using if you are having a more intimate wedding!
When to send out your Wedding Invitations
It really depends on if you have lots of guests coming from overseas (hopefully you already sent them a “Save The Date” card), if so I would recommend about 3 months before the wedding. For a wedding where most of the guests are in town then these can be sent about 2 months before the wedding. However, if you are having the dilemma of parents adding and adding to your guests list and you don’t even know who some of the guests are, then perhaps you can opt for a List A and then a List B – on this occasion you should send out your invitations minimum 3 months in advance so that you start getting your RSVP’s back and then List B invitations can be sent out 2 months in advance without your guests feeling they were second choice.
In order to send out your invitations on time, don’t forget to allow enough time for your stationary company to produce them and then for them to be assembled and mailed – so as soon as you start planning your wedding, start gathering all your guests addresses!
What to include in your Wedding Invitations
At a minimum you should be sending out your invitations with an RSVP card, however there maybe a couple of other items you might want to think about adding:
- Pew Cards, are not seen often but could be a wonderful touch to send out to your close family & friends and ensures the most important people at your wedding are seated at the pews / chairs closest to the alter / ceremony area!
- Menu Choice Cards, most of the time these are incorporated into your RSVP Card and allows your guests to choose their entrée prior to the wedding (most hotels / caterer’s will insist on this). However you will need to track this and give the final numbers to Hotel / Catering a few days before the wedding. Also on your “place cards” you will need to indicate with a coloured crystal (or something similar) a code so that the waiters know who to give which dish to, without having to ask your guests again!!
- Information Cards, these are probably the most useful and can include directions to the ceremony & reception locations, hotel recommendations and your wedding website address!
- Gift Registry Information, this is a huge NO, NO….. Never should you include any kind of gift registry information in your invitations, if you are having a gift registry then this can be detailed on your wedding website, or is should be spread by word of mouth via your families.
Assembling your Wedding Invitations
- If you are using 2 envelopes, then the invitation goes in the inner envelope with the text facing the flap & the inner envelope is never sealed.
- Folded invitations are placed with the spine side towards the bottom of the envelope.
- For a single sheet invitation, all inserts should go in front of the invitation.
- For a folded invitation, the inserts should go inside the invitation.
- The inner envelope should be placed with the front facing the outer envelope’s flap.
- Generally Reply Cards do not require a stamp, however if you are placing a stamp, ensure you weigh the reply card first.
Do’s and Don’ts for Invitations
- Identify from your stationary designer / printer the timeframes to print your invitations and ensure you give yourself enough time, especially if they are being engraved
- Ensure you mail your invitations at least eight weeks in advance of your wedding
- Number the back of your reply cards in case a guest forgets to fill in their names (corrolating with your spreadsheet of your guest list)
- Send wedding announcements if your guest list was small or to those you feel certain are unable to attend
- Order your wedding invitations, related stationery at the same time
- Order printed stationery with your married name for your Thank You Cards (outside Quebec)
- Put RSVP’s on a Ceremony only invitation
- Include the number of persons attending on your reply card
- Send Admission Cards, unless you are famous or the church will be busy with tourists
- Send Gift Registry information with invitations
Did you know that Wedding Invitations were always postmarked from the Bride’s mothers home and the RSVP went back to her also to track and manage, and for the formal weddings often a “Social Secretary” was employed to keep track of very large guests list…. we should all be so lucky LOL!!
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